For example, maybe the part of the lie that's important isn't that he saw a guy rob the gift shop and get arrested, but that he was at the -- the point is that he imagines himself a loner, or an artsy type, etc.Now, let me make the distinction: there are people who lie and then there are liars. We often substitute the word “excuses” for “white lies.” But it’s basically the same thing. Since they have no legs, they can’t take a stand on anything that matters.But before you crack an anatomy book to figure out what that means (more prefrontal white matter= more ability to think and reason), you should know that the subjects they labeled "pathological liars" were really people who purposely and frequently lie to get a gain-- in other words, they were big fat evil scumbag liars, but not pathological liars.What this study found was that people who frequently lie develop a better brain for manipulating information, remembering stories, etc-- which is interesting, but not all that surprising.It's hard to think clearly when it comes to the people we love.
However a compulsive liar would spin elaborate and false stories about how he/she gave a presentation at the office and everyone applauded whereas in truth, they may have been only part of the audience.
He will continue to lie because maybe at this point he believes the story you’re both living in.
You will want to trust him and you will say, “Tell me something to make me believe it’s not true.” He will try but you will know it’s too late.
The popular stereotype of a pathological liar-- a chronic liar, deceiver, who lies to get out of things, or into things; who tries to con you into something, or control you; who cheats on you and then denies it, makes up stories about where he was-- all this is wrong. He's a tool, but he's not psychiatric."Pathological lying" is often interchanged with "pseudologia fantastica." (NB: many psychiatrists use pseudologia fantastica interchangably with confabulation-- this is also wrong, as will be described below.) Pathological lying was originally defined as complex lies which are internally consistent, that may drag on for years and-- and this is the key point-- do not have an obvious purpose or gain. Once told, they generally stick (for years)-- but it's fair to say the pathological liar doesn't know what he's going to say until he says it. "Ok, look, I'm not really in the CIA." But in his mind, he knows that if conditions were right-- if something big went down-- he could be exactly like a CIA agent, and that's close enough. Pathological lying is not "confabulation." In both cases, lies are told spontaneously and freely, without clear intent, purpose, or gain-- except that in confabulation, the reason the person lies is to fill in the deficits in his memory; he can't remember what actually happened.
And later you learn he was really at a movie with his girlfriend and you think, why the hell did this freak make all that up? A pathological liar is like a 4 year old kid, who tells you what happened to him down by the lake. The important question here is this: does the pathological liar know he is lying? 8 puppies get eaten by Chamberlain and de Gaulle-- hand to God I saw it"), and especially with alcoholic dementia/hallucinosis ("I don't know what happened to me-- six guys jumped me... There aren't any, because this isn't a disease, it's a description.